You are going to observe, with the intention of take an x-ray of yourself. Like if you had a video camera that you are watching yourself (making you aware of all your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors). Only that camera has several qualities: it is loving, not judge or criticize you. Looks at you with a deep love and respect. Will allow you to see several things: How you treat yourself? For example: you say when you get up in the morning, do you have words of love for you, I wish you a good day, you agree to make yourself happy? Or even you remember it, you wake up raging because even you need sleep, or raging with your children (see how and with what feelings you start the day) How do you respond to the events of daily living?, for example, when someone goes through while driving How do you respond?, when you child spills the milk, when things go wrong or there is a change of plans How do you respond?, when someone criticizes you. What caliber are your thoughts, negative or positive? What is the state of mind that most lasts throughout the day? With what feelings will you sleep at night? You’re exhausted, grateful, listing all pending for the next day or relaxed and grateful. Do you spend more time during the day? That is your priority, the job, the friends or the family.
That take you home: anger, shouting, threats, love, happiness, peace of mind. How do you treat those you love the most? Do you insult, offend? What you are lovingly firm or a tyrant?
How do you treat yourself? Note how is your internal dialogue, you may always apurándote, regañándote, judging, criticizing you or telling you all the time the earrings that you have, llenándote of anxiety and distress. Can you say something good and positive to see in the mirror? Do you or do you just look for criticarte or not you look? Do you allow yourself to enjoy a bath in the morning (or bathing in automatic distracted in the thoughts)? You ask how I want to dress this day? What I want for breakfast? Or you say when they ask what you want for dinner? “Whatever”, without taking even the trouble to see in your interior that you crave or need. Do you allow yourself to enjoy the food, chewing slowly, feeling as deglutes every bite, saboreándolos? Or do you do it on automatic without realizing it? Do you enjoy the way you work (or do not account to you for where you’re going to your job and you do it on auto)? What do you say when you’re wrong? What are the thoughts that you have for yourself when things don’t go well? Do you have a word of encouragement for you? or I’ll torture you only with the phrase “that fool” “less” etc
How do you respond to the events of daily living? Do you give too much importance to events that do not have it? do you badly worn with things that are not in your hands? Do you give more importance to things or to people? Do you make life more heavy in the face of difficulties? What you say in the face of difficulties, you become self-support or you sink more you only with negative thoughts, envisioning the future black? Where you focus you attention; on the good, positive and cute, or black points of all situations? Are you looking for the bright side of things or you are generally in negative?
What is the state of mind that most lasts throughout the day? Every thought that you have throughout the day takes to put a feeling in you heart, if you say, “oh, It’s Monday!! What a laziness! What feeling do you think got to the heart with that thought?: world-weariness, discouragement. It’s another time to make food! Anger, frustration, what feelings you’re pouring your heart? If you want peace in you life, and what your thoughts are geared to that? or on the contrary. How do you get angry? that tone of voice you have when you are angry, that words come out of your mouth. How do you put the muscles of the face? If you can leave the face and runs to look in the mirror. Tomato unsuspecting and notes that feelings reflects you face. Really going through life being aware of your responses or just know to react.
Do you spend more time during the day? See yourself and notice how you have distributed your times. What is actually distributed as you want, giving priority to what for you is the most important?
It takes more and more conscious of it and assume the responsibility of such as these taking your life. You Decide if that is what you really want. Notice if what you’re looking for you and what you do are going to the same.
Do not make judgment of what you see, just say: “How good it is that I realize”. It is important that you are aware of the relationship that you carry with you. Are you really the person who most loves you? Do you or have you become your worst enemy? You can feel sad by what you see, even you is going to hurt, the important thing is that you see it. If you look with attention you will notice that you worst enemy is not outside, bring it inside.
“Imagine that you speak to inform you that you ticket has been awarded. You’ve taken out the top prize, a luxury residence with a cost of 20, 000,000.00 (twenty million pesos). Only the manager tells you that there is a problem, you are going to deliver the house, but as it has a year-built and the windows were open all the time, because the house was filled with dust, dirt, water with the rains, the gardens are not pruned and the undergrowth has grown quite a bit. Did you say that you do not want for those? Or would you say: “do Not worry I will clean” you entréguemela.
So are we human beings, a large mansion, only that we have garbage in it, with what we see with what we hear, what we speak, what we eat, what we think, what we say, what we interpret, and with the feelings that we foster in our interior. And above all our abandonment, we believe in ourselves to turn them into tyrants for us.
With the little camera you are going to take possession of your great mansion, and without judgment or criticism you’re going to clean up. To leave it sparkling clean and beautiful as it was originally. No matter how dirty the find, that’s the least of it, what is important is that you realize the trash that got into this. Only what you see is what you’ll be able to clean, which is not what you see not what you’ll be able to clean. You are responsible for your thoughts, feelings and actions. This will be your best journey for you kingdom inside. Is you best investment.
The little camera has two functions:
On the one hand it allows you to take conscience of what you’re doing, first with yourself, then do it with others, to realize how much trash got in you inside and as you treat.
You return attention to your internal states (of which we are very forgotten), to make decisions consciously with respect to what the environment offers, it is necessary to be aware of what you have inside you says. And in this continuum of consciousness from the inside and from the outside you can have answers healthier (smarter) for you and for others.
It is important that you little camera is turned on 24 hours a day, 365 days a year. Shuts down the day that you die. It is important to get an expert in to be aware of.
Rules for dialogue in the family (NON-mobile): Respect (shifts, without judgment or evaluation) and Listening (trying to understand the other, and looking him in the eyes and without breaking). It is important to remember the rules at the start of the session in family.
Task: Dialogarás on the use of the little camera with you family. In family reunion, comment on how they are doing with his little camera. They will share what they have seen from the set and how much work it has cost them to keep it on. They will reflect as a family about the importance of the use of the little camera.
Note: meet in family a minimum of once a week. If they can do it two times a week is better, this will foster communication in the family unit and links.
Book: The knight’s armor rusted. (It is also in audio book for children).