Have you seen what is your mental diet, and you changed your thoughts and your way of interpreting the events in a more positive way. How much do you have become unable to stop thinking? That is a terrible disease because you can’t stop it, and that way substituyes the fantasy for the reality. Since you don’t live the present, you’re going to lose life, you do not realize what is going on in every moment of your life, much less enjoy it, because you’re in the chatter of the mind. It is important that this week you observe that time you live in. There are only two, or live in the past and the future; or in the present. Living in the past and in the future you will cause depression and anxiety. Usually we go to the past to resentirnos and to the future to visualize how things go wrong, disasters. We suffer a lot when things are not even happening. We are soap operas complete in the head and replace the reality by fantasy. “There is No worse storm than the one that you arms your just in the head” by living in the past and in the future through fantasies.
Living in the present is to live in the moment, enjoying all that we do, living with all senses to the experience we are having. Is to enjoy the journey of that day, we get up, bathe, work, eat, rest, giving your time to each activity. If these washing dishes, feeling the water, the soap, seeing as you are clean. This, leaving to each day its own desire. Without seeing the morning, especially without suffering from the morning. To be able to live in the present it is necessary to put all the senses. With your little camera on, you will start to make more spaces of inner silence, try to have posts in the 5 senses the more time that you can. If you are eating, perceiving the aromas, the colors, the texture of the foods, be aware of the consistency and flavors of food, even you have this sound intentionally (¡mmmmmmm!), observe (without judgment) your plate, the colors of the food, the way. Uses the sense of smell, what smells?, be aware of the different aromas and try to identify them, allowing you to feel the temperature of the food, how you feel the texture when chewing, and as the deglutes?, observe the harmony of all the senses, all the organs, notice the wonderful who is able to do this (and that you have the health to be able to do it) and enjoy the pleasure of eating. The internal dialogue you can not enter in action when you have all senses in what you’re doing.
Living in the past and in the future is to live divided (your body is here but your mind is on the other side). You’re in your house eating, but in reality it is only your body, your thoughts left in the work or in the cell. These with your friends over a cup of coffee, but your mind is fighting with your husband. If you decided to go with the coffee, he’s in the coffee! If you decide to sit down to eat, eat! and let it work. You will notice that by living in the present time you enjoy, you paid more and it all flows. By living this you end up with the monotony. Just day routine, even when you continue to do the same thing, you’ll be more aware of everything.
Live as much as you can in the present, makes decisions, and then let go of the things. Date your time to plan what you’re going to do, say, and then returns to the present. Remember: your challenge this week is to live Present. Don’t pressure yourself, enjoy your small successes, remember, this is little by little, are years of doing the same thing, the constancy will take you to the goal. Become conscious that every moment in your life is a miracle.
The Seeker (Short Story)
This is the story of a man who I would describe as a seeker.
A seeker is someone looking for. Not necessarily someone who finds. Nor is it someone who knows what they are looking for. It is simply to whom his life is a search.
One day, the searcher felt that he should go to the city of Kammir. He had learned to do case rigorous to those sensations that came from an unknown place in itself, so they dropped everything and left. After two days of walking on the dusty roads, he spotted Kammir, far away. A little before reaching the village, a hill to the right of the path caught his attention. It was upholstered in a wonderful green and there were a lot of trees, birds and lovely flowers. Surrounded completely by a kind of fence small polished wooden… A door of brass invited him to enter. He suddenly felt that he forgot the people and succumbed to the temptation of rest for a moment in that place. The finder will transfer to the portal and began to walk slowly between the white stones that were distributed as randomly, among the trees. He left his eyes were those of a seeker, so maybe that’s why he discovered, on one of the stones, that inscription … “Birch Tare, lived 8 years, 6 months, 2 weeks and 3 days”. It was kind of overwhelmed a little bit to realize that that stone was not simply a stone. It was a tombstone, he felt sad to think that a child of such a young age, was buried in that place… Looking around, the man realized that the stone of the side, also had an inscription, came to read it he said “Call Kalib, lived 5 years, 8 months and 3 weeks”. The seeker felt terribly shocked. This beautiful place was a cemetery and each stone, a gravestone. They all had inscriptions similar: a name and the time of life exact of the dead, but what hooked him with the fright, was to see that, the more time he had lived, just beyond 11 years. Seized by a terrible pain, sat down and began to cry. The caretaker of the cemetery happened to walk by and came over, looked at him cry for a while in silence and then asked if she was crying for a family member.
– Not any family, ” said the seeker – What happens with this people?, What terrible thing there is in this city? Why so many dead children buried in this place? What is the horrible curse that weighs upon this people, who have been forced to build a cemetery of guys?
The old man smiled and said: -Can you calm down, there is no such curse, what happens is that here we have an old custom. I’ll tell you: when a young man turns 15, his parents give him a book, as this that I have here, hanging from the neck, and it is a tradition among us that, from there, each time that one enjoys intensely of something, open the notebook and write in it: to the left, which was enjoyed…, to the right, how long that joy. How he met his girlfriend and fell in love with it? How long did that massive passion and the pleasure of knowing it?… What a week?, two? then, three and a half weeks?… And after that… the excitement of the first kiss, how long did it last?, Do the minute and a half of the kiss?, What, two days?, What a week? … and what about the pregnancy or the birth of the first child? … and what about the marriage of the friends…?, and what about the most desirable travel…?, and what about the meeting with the brother who returns from a distant country…?How long did it last the enjoy of these situations?… what hours?, what days?… So we go on writing in the book each time, when someone dies, it is our practice to open your address book and add the time enjoyed, to write it on his tomb.
Because that is, for us, the unique and real time experienced…
Note: meet in family a minimum of once a week. If they can do it two times a week is better, this will foster communication in the family unit and links.
Rules for dialogue in the family (NON-mobile): Respect (shifts, without judgment or evaluation) and Listening (trying to understand the other, and looking him in the eyes and without breaking). It is important to remember the rules at the start of the session in family.
Remind the family the importance of continuing with the little camera on.
Task: At every traffic light in the paths to your work, home, school; try to stay in silence (silencing your internal dialogue) by putting all the senses in action. To smell, that is what is happening on the street, as you feel the steering wheel of your car, as is the temperature, etc, Try not to judge anything, just observe. So iras by increasing the moments of silence and learning to control the “mad” mind.
To perform this exercise with your children and when you get home will be able to share everything that they observed and enjoyed.
Dialogue with your family and discuss how important it is to enjoy everything that we do, with the senses in each moment. Agree to practice moments of inner silence and enjoy with all senses to the experience.