The challenge this week is to take care of your thoughts. Once you’ve identified where you put your attention, you will look for in each situation look best, the beautiful, the positive. Even when the situation is difficult, búscale the best side for you. You try to take care of you making you life more happy by choosing what is best for you in each situation. Do not judge anything, not to criticise (criticism opens the door to hatred). Tries to learn from all situations and experiences, even the painful. Seek the learning in every thing that you live. Remember that what you face will bring you to a teaching, is to bring out the good in everything and seeks to accompany your day with a smile. Starts by seeing all the positive that is in you, seeks to present thoughts, cute and positive, that is the best gift you can have for yourself, you’ll see all the good things and pleasant that usually are not time, like a sunrise or a sunset, appreciates and gives thanks for what you have.
Gives clear messages and specific to your children, messages that do not contain evaluation or negative judgment, it seeks to highlight on your loved ones all the positive things, focus on the positive things in people and situations, what you can do with your partner, let them know everything good you see in them. Try to give smiles where you are, starting with your home. Today you will think positive and smile to the life, keep this smile throughout your day. (Notice how much work you it costs).
Dr. Juan Hitzig is the author of the book “Fifty, and” so many Body and mind in shape although time is still passing.
There is No doubt that the human being lives more and more. How to make this longevity is not an accumulation of ailments and diseases, but a life stage, full of experiences and personal development?
The central ideas of this book are based on research that shows that around the age of fifty years is the Tipping Point Biological that defines how we will age. Transmitting experiences and observations that he has made throughout his career, the author suggests ideas and conclusions that will help readers to access a longevity healthy. Taking into account biological aspects, sociological, psychological, and even spiritual, presents a way to face the coming years to curb the aging process and renew, with intelligence, the second half of the life of many.
Professor of the Maimonides University and recognized gerontologist dedicated to studying the causes of longevity, healthy argues with humor that:
“The brain is a ‘muscle’ easily fooled; if you smile you think that you’re happy and makes you feel better.”
He explains that the thought is an event energy which takes place in a reality intangible but that quickly transformed into excitement (of the Greek emotion, movement), a movement of neurochemistry and hormones, which when negative makes them collapse to our physical body in the form of discomfort, diseases and even death. Over the years, Dr. Hitzig has developed an alphabet emotional that it is worth memorizing.
The behavior with R:
Resentment, anger, reproach, resentment, rejection, resistance, repression, Are generating coRtisol, a powerful stress hormone whose prolonged presence in the blood is lethal to the arterial cells as it increases the risk of acquiring diseases cardio-cerebro-vascular.
Conduct R generate attitudes D:
Depression, discouragement, despair, desolation.
In contrast, behaviors with a’s: Serenity, silence, wisdom, taste, sex, sleep, smile, sociability, and sedation, are motorizadoras of Serotonin, a hormone that generates peace of mind that improves the quality of life, take away the disease and retards the rate of cellular aging.
The behaviors S generate attitudes:
Encouragement, appreciation, love, friendship, closeness.
Note that thus we learn that what we always called “made bad blood” is nothing more than an excess of cortisol and a lack of serotonin in the blood.
Some reflections more of Dr. Hitzig:
• Pay attention to your thoughts because it will make words.
• Pay attention to your words because they will make attitudes.
• Pay attention to your attitudes because become behaviors.
• Pay attention to your behaviors because they will become character.
• Pay attention to your character because it will make biology. Practice.
Many years ago the poet Rabindranath Tagore said: “If you have a remedy, what are you complaining about? And if you don’t have a remedy, what are you complaining about?” Could help us to learn to let the complaints and negative thoughts aside, and seek in every situation the positive aspect, because until the worst of them has. That way, we would flood the serotonin with all its twisted, the smile we would record in the cheeks and all of this would help us to live much better that lots of years that science has added. Because, I forgot to write it, Dr. Hitzig has proven with his research that those who age well are the people active, sociable and smiling.
Not the rezongonas, crabby and avinagradas that no one wants to have near.
Let’s start today by practicing these in front of the mirror to improve our mood and take care of our health.
Do you agree with the alphabet emotional? What abounds more in your life,R or S?
A daughter complained to her father about her life and how things were so difficult. I did not know how to do to move forward, and thought he would give up. I was tired of fighting. It seemed that when solving a problem, appeared another.
His father, a chef, took her to his place of work. There she filled three pots with water and placed them on the fire. In one he placed carrots, in another he placed eggs, and in the last he placed coffee beans. Let them boil. Without saying a word.
The daughter waited impatiently, wondering what he would be doing his father. In twenty minutes the father turned off the fire. She pulled out the carrots and placed them in a bowl. He took out the eggs and placed them in another plate. Finally, ladled the coffee and placed it in a third container.
Looking at her daughter said: “my Dear. What do you see?; “Carrots, eggs and coffee” was his response. The did approach and asked her to touch the carrots, she did and noted that they were soft. Then asked her to take an egg and break it.
After removal of the shell, observed the hard boiled egg. He then asked that I try the coffee. She smiled as she enjoyed its rich aroma. Humbly the daughter asked: – “What does this mean, father?” He explained that the three items had faced the same adversity: boiling water, but had reacted differently. The carrot arrived at the water strong, hard; but after going through the boiling water had become weak, easy to undo. The egg had reached the water fragile, its thin shell protecting its interior liquid; but after being in boiling water, its inside had hardened. The coffee beans, however, were unique: after being in boiling water, they had changed the water. “What are you, daughter? When adversity knocks on your door, How do you respond?”, he asked his daughter.
Are you a carrot that seems strong but when adversity and pain you are touched, you become weak and lose your strength? Are you the egg that starts with a heart malleable, poseías a spirit fluid, but after a loss, a crisis, or a problem you’ve become hard and rigid? On the outside you look the same, but Are you bitter and harsh, with a spirit and a hardened heart? Or do you’re like a coffee bean? The coffee changes the boiling water, the element that causes pain. When the water reaches the boiling point, the coffee reaches its best flavor.
If you are like the coffee bean, when things get worse you react in a positive way, without missing beat, and make the things around you improve, in the face of adversity there is always a light that illuminates your path and that of the people around you. Ideally, when faced with the adversities of life is to deal with them proactively and take the good from the bad: that of the crisis come out a positive change and we learn, we evolve, we take the reins and change our environment to overcome adversity. Esparces with your strength and positivism, the “sweet aroma of coffee”
And you?… What of the three are you?
Note: meet in family a minimum of once a week. If they can do it two times a week is better, this will foster communication in the family unit and links.
Rules for dialogue in the family (NON-mobile): Respect (shifts, without judgment or evaluation) and Listening (trying to understand the other, and looking him in the eyes and without breaking). It is important to remember the rules at the start of the session in family.
Remind the family the importance of continuing with the little camera on.
Task: Dialogaran in their family gatherings (by turns, and respecting the rules) about the changes they have been making in your way of thinking and interpreting the events of life. As you have felt with those changes, and how it has benefited the whole family with this work.